Should I Really Save a Kiss? What's the Big Deal?

Have you heard of saving your first kiss? Have your parents or friends talked about it before? Is it something you never thought about? Or maybe it's something you decided to do, but now aren't really sure. Here is my story:

I have grown up in a Christian home and have been taught certain morals when it comes to purity...even when it comes to what might seem as something little like a kiss, but I don't feel like I was forced to make these decisions; what I have heard and read about these things makes sense. I had rarely if ever run into a peer who didn't believe the way I did when it came to specifically kissing. Then in my teen years I did. It was a little surprising. My first come back response was "It makes it more special". Later that day in the car with my family I told them what had happened. They explained to me what I wish I could have explained some minutes before hand in that room of girls. So maybe your one of the girls in a room looking at an odd ball and want to know more about why they feel that way, or maybe your the odd ball and want some encouragement and want to know your not the only one. Whoever you are and wherever you stand, please read on.

If you have run into a person who has made the choice to save their kiss for their husband on their wedding day, their first response to your questioning look might be "It makes it more special" (mine was anyway). It does, but there is more to it than that!
Let me first ask you this. Have you decided to not do drugs, alcohol, or be involved with a guy until you are married? Well where does that last one start anyway? With a kiss. Just a small, simple, meaningless kiss. That kiss ended up where you did not want to go, right? Let's consider Nehemiah in the bible. Nehemiah is building a wall. So think about his wall as your personal wall and/or boundaries you've made for yourself. The three things listed above might be some. If so, what about that last one? If you have enemies seeking after you, are you gonna build that wall close to you or far from you? It can apply to one of the reasons we choose not to kiss. If we don't want to be involved with guys and save our self for our Lord willing future husband we are kind of like setting a trap for ourselves, digging the pit we ourselves are going to fall in, and letting temptation in, by letting go of that one small meaningless thing...a kiss.
Being involved with a guy isn't wrong if it's your husband. That's how I feel about a kiss. That little tiny kiss, can turn into that really big mess over there. It's not that it's wrong, it's just for that special guy. In a movie called "Pamela's Prayer" The dad asks his teenage daughter if when she is on her wedding bed, would she prefer a guy who hadn't waited and had kissed other women, or a guy who had waited, and who had saved his kiss for her? She replies, I would prefer the one who waited. Wouldn't your Lord willing future husband feel the same? In the movie the dad also mentions, what does the preacher say when he announces a man and woman as husband and wife? You may NOW kiss the bride!

So what is the big deal?
First, it is a set up for things to go to far.
Second, you might be kissing a guy who will not be your husband. How do you feel about that? How do you think your Lord willing husband would feel about that?
Third, think of your kiss as a gift. Something only you and your husband share. If you had a special gift to give to somebody, are you going to go around and let others use it till the rightful owner comes along?
Saving your kiss can help protect you from being impure, is an act of faithfulness to your Lord willing future husband, is a wonderful present to your husband, and makes your wedding day more special.


Go to Google Videos and search "Pamela's Prayer"!!!

Shake it Off! Dealing with Untruthful Feelings towards Loved Ones

Hello Girlz! Okay so do you feel like you are living in extreme land? Things are either extremely awesome and sweet or extremely bitter! Well I know it's easy to get offended when your emotions are on HIGH especially with loved ones, or more specific...parents. But feelings most of the time AREN't TURE!! Even if they seem like they are holding you back from a lot of stuff and it is so hard just to walk away, please remember to ALWAYS HONOR AND OBEY! Or maybe it's with your siblings. Ya I mean come on. We love them to death! But sometimes they can be very annoying! Just take a deep breath and think about how you are going to feel after if you decide to let loose and yell. If you are in the scripture a lot, things are always easier and you can tell you are easier to deal with and your attitude is much better. In these ares there is a song by Krystal Meyers called "Shake it Off!" that helps me. To listen to it click the link below. Tata!



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lXLbg5gvHgY

Saving Your Whole Heart with the Lord's Help....Not Only Pieces

Why Choose to wait on dating or not date at all?

Many of us might wonder how dating can harm us. Well, it might not only hurt you, but your future mate as well in the future. In a movie I saw the dad asks his teenage daughter if on her wedding night in bed with her husband if she would prefer a man who she knew had kissed other women and hadn't saved his affections for her only, or the man who she could be assured that had saved his kiss and affections only for her. I prefer the one who waited. And who do you think your husband will prefer? In my previous blog entry it talks about already being in a commitment to your future spouse. This applies in this area. So dating can be like a temptation. And if we give into that temptation we are saving our all for that one God will write about in our love story. If we wait for God's hand in the area of a life mate, how exciting your love story could be! Have any of you heard of the Duggar Family? They are a Christian family with about 17 kids (and expecting another!) who are on TV. The most recent one I have seen is where the oldest boy proposes! On this specific episode they talk about saving our kiss and dating. The oldest son (now engaged) said he sees dating as you are giving pieces of your heart away when dating. Then when you finally find the one you are to spend the rest of your life with, you say 'here is what I have left'. Rather than saving your heart, then giving it all to the person God had for you.


The difference Between Dating & Courting
Why choose courting over dating?

In the book "So Much More" (you can find it in 'Lists' under 'Books') they tell you one way that courting can take place. You first get to know the man as a brother and sister through Christ. Then when the man is pretty confident that this is the one God might have for him, he goes to the father of the girl without her knowing, and asks permission to get to know his daughter in that way. Others like friends and family support the decision as well (if I remembered right). The daughter can back out at anytime if she feels this is against God's will. In a case of a breakup, the father goes to the boy (and maybe his family too, again if I remembered right) and does all the rough stuff.

When courting, it is probably keeping your emotions mainly in check and there are supporters around you who are not caught up in all the romance.

I'm Engaged!...(if the Lord wills)

Okay, I don't know if I know my husband (if God has one for me) and no rings; but I might be engaged! How is that possible you may wonder??? Well, if we are keeping our hearts, our affections, our kiss, and all the other blessings that come with marriage, keeping our purity for the one God has for us; with God's help we are saving everything for that man. We are not going to go and give our heart away to whoever we have a fondness for. We are waiting for THE one God has for us. The one he is writing about in our love story. So we are in away engaged to that man. In a commitment. It's just a matter of time and God's hand at work in that area. I learned this in Sunday school class last week. So on the last note, let's remember to pray for our future mates (Lord willing) and hope they are doing the same for you!